It seems at this young age that I have involved myself with guy whoisseveral
years older. Now by most standards our 'relationship', yes Iwillclassify it as
such even though I despise the word, is wrong. Sex isreallystatutory rape and
the time we spend together is illegal by society'sstandards. As a non-voting
citizen am I to be deprived of a mature man?Excuse me if you please, I've dealt
with the teen and preteen males andit ismore often the role of a mother than of
a lover and companion. I reallyfindit slightly upsetting when I can find more
similarities between my beauandbaby brother than with myself.
And yet I
get glares and frowns and disappointment. Why? BecauseUncleSam has decided that
what I feel towards my man is immoral. I don't intendtototally advocate 'the
older guy' amongst teenage girls, but to be quitehonest it is the more logical
choice. Yet, I am not as foolish as I mayseem.
The healthiest and safest
choice both physically and emotionally is toabstain from sex when young. A
sexual relationship can create moreemotionalconfusion than many adults can
handle. To combine that with our imbalancedhormonal activity, which is
ultimately the root of many adolescenttraumas,is not good. Being that sex drives
are difficult to tame, I suggest thatmasturbation be considered as tool to help
teens abstain from sex asopposedto sick and abnormal. However, if we are smart
enough and mature enoughtohandle the situation it should not be
forbidden.
Why must I be treated as little girl when I am not? I have
friendswhoare with older guys and I have friends with boys. It seems that the
rateforemotional stability and 'relationship' success is higher among
thosefriendsinvolved with older partners. Coincidence? I think not. It may seem
hardtobelieve, but we teens aren't as stupid as we appear. Beneath our
thickscullswe do know what is right for our own selves. Maybe if parents
weren'tjust ashard-headed and blind to the opposing view, situations such as the
oneI'm inwouldn't be as difficult to handle. I understand that Lolita has
instilledfear in the hearts of daughter's fathers everywhere, but that isn't
me.Thatisn't many girls. If anything we should be encouraged to have these
highexpectations and congratulated on our satisfactory sex life.
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