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It seems at this young age that I have involved myself with guy whoisseveral years older. Now by most standards our ‘relationship’, yes Iwillclassify it as such even though I despise the word, is wrong. Sex isreallystatutory rape and the time we spend together is illegal by society’sstandards. As a non-voting citizen am I to be deprived of a mature man?Excuse me if you please, I’ve dealt with the teen and preteen males andit ismore often the role of a mother than of a lover and companion. I reallyfindit slightly upsetting when I can find more similarities between my beauandbaby brother than with myself.

And yet I get glares and frowns and disappointment. Why? BecauseUncleSam has decided that what I feel towards my man is immoral. I don’t intendtototally advocate ‘the older guy’ amongst teenage girls, but to be quitehonest it is the more logical choice. Yet, I am not as foolish as I mayseem.

The healthiest and safest choice both physically and emotionally is toabstain from sex when young. A sexual relationship can create moreemotionalconfusion than many adults can handle. To combine that with our imbalancedhormonal activity, which is ultimately the root of many adolescenttraumas,is not good. Being that sex drives are difficult to tame, I suggest thatmasturbation be considered as tool to help teens abstain from sex asopposedto sick and abnormal. However, if we are smart enough and mature enoughtohandle the situation it should not be forbidden.

Why must I be treated as little girl when I am not? I have friendswhoare with older guys and I have friends with boys. It seems that the rateforemotional stability and ‘relationship’ success is higher among thosefriendsinvolved with older partners. Coincidence? I think not. It may seem hardtobelieve, but we teens aren’t as stupid as we appear. Beneath our thickscullswe do know what is right for our own selves. Maybe if parents weren’tjust ashard-headed and blind to the opposing view, situations such as the oneI’m inwouldn’t be as difficult to handle. I understand that Lolita has instilledfear in the hearts of daughter’s fathers everywhere, but that isn’t me.Thatisn’t many girls. If anything we should be encouraged to have these highexpectations and congratulated on our satisfactory sex life.